Monday, November 26, 2012

True friendship.

Just now I read someone's story of how they lost their best friend on facebook and I felt the need to share some feelings by sharing the picture on my page with a sentiment of my own attached. Now I wish to elaborate on my sentiment, so I shall.

The person's story, to sum it up because I refuse to post the actual thing anywhere, is this. "You know that feeling when you've lost a friend? A true friend? It sucks. Knowing them for X years, growing closer to them. Even sharing things because you feel like a sibling to them... Then they leave you all because of a few bad choices. You date the wrong people, act like an ass, and then you turn around when you come around again and they're gone. It sucks and I hate it." 

Here is my sentiment. 


This entire thing is a falsehood. There is no such thing with a true friend. A true best friend will never forget you. They will always be there whenever you need them, thick or thin they have your back. Not to sound like an asshole since this is going on something like THIS, but I'm damn glad and proud I have people like that in my life.

God bless you.

To elaborate a little further, some background. I talk all the time with my friends and family. About a lot of stuff. A lot of the time things come up that have come up before and points are solidified time after time. My mother has made this point in the past and I know it is true to this very day. "If you needed your friends, the ones you know are true and the ones you talk to/hang out with the most you know they would be there for you." To which I would always respond "And I them." Now in my personal life I've proved this plenty before and so have they. A friend calls me up stopped in the middle of the road with a flat. What do I do? I hurry my ass out there as quick as I can and help him change the tire and make sure he doesn't get killed. Another instance, I had somewhere to go and my mom had my car because hers was in the shop. I pulled a game show and phoned a friend. They gladly gave me a ride and to pay them back I bought lunch. Which brings me to yet another case, and this more so than anything else. Money. Or to be specific, food money. If I have money and a friend doesn't, I'll spot them if I can. Same goes for them. Or if you're just that tiny little bit short, someone will have someone else's back. Now I'm horribly traditional, which makes me an oddity in this day and age I'm sure, but isn't that how things are supposed to work? When you forge a friendship you forge a bond with a person, you sign on contract in a way. The way I see it is that when you know someone and they need something you help out. One of the main saying I grew up with was "family and friends first." Because if you aren't there for a family member or a friend when they need you they just may not be there for long. I know that's a worst case scenario, but you know what I mean. At the very least it's just being decent, right? Common courtesy? I know this is a bit far fetched but shouldn't it be like The Lord of the Rings? A fellowship? An unbreakable bond? 

As I've stated before, I know I have people like that in my life and I'm damn happy and proud to know that I do. That I have what everyone should but sadly does not. A person is not blessed by what he has materially, but by the ties he has with others. You can buy and sell personal possessions, you can replace something if it gets lost or stolen, broken or damaged... But you cannot replace the life of another or the memories and feelings of those that you're closest to. Cherish those moments and those people. Another saying I've grown up with and hold dear to my heart is this, and then I'm done. "Never leave someone on a sour note. Always make amends as soon as you can. Because if you don't you may never get to do so in the future. And that feeling is infinitely worse than if you had never known them at all. 

God bless you all and thanks for reading, 
                                                                  ~Alex

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